Stillness Is Love: A Luxe Woman’s Guide to Peace, Presence, and Purpose
- gbwrn302
- 7 days ago
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Stillness Is a Choice, and Ultimately, That’s Love
Lounging in the immense infinity pool at Marina Bay Sands, watching the horizon blend into sky and sea, I realized something profound: life isn’t about moving faster, achieving bigger, or checking more boxes.
It’s about being still enough to feel it. To see it. To thank God for it.
When you stop chasing “busy,” you start living.When you stop sprinting, you start seeing. When you stop saying “I’m fine,” you start healing.
Stillness is love, the kind of love that fills, restores, and reminds you who you are.
This is your story now: not the one where you run from one thing to the next, but the one where you walk in peace, in purpose, in presence.
The Groundhog Wheel
Before I found stillness, I lived in motion, constant motion.
For over a decade, I was on a loop: wake up, work, errands, travel, meetings, flights, home. Rinse, repeat.
I traveled the world, six continents, nearly forty countries. I was everywhere. But never fully there.
I was busy being busy. And it nearly broke me.
Then came February.
I took a leave of absence. I sat still. And in that stillness, everything changed.
I looked around, room by room. My house needed a reset. So did I. It wasn’t just about slowing down, it was about making space.
Space for healing.
Space for me.
And, as always, God showed up right on time, closing doors I kept forcing open, so He could open better ones.
No pity party. Just clarity.
🌺 The Turning Point
The Turning Point: July 4th
It was hot. I got a call:“Hey Auntie, come join us at the beach.”
This time, I said yes. Not just for the day, for the whole weekend.
The old excuse “I have to work” didn’t land anymore. Because I didn’t have to. I gave myself permission to rest.
And let me tell you, there’s freedom in that breath. In that choice. In showing up without guilt, without agenda, just presence.
I started connecting again, with people, with little unplanned moments, with joy. And I realized: peace doesn’t always require a passport. Sometimes, it just requires permission.
And let me tell you, there’s a freedom that comes when you can just breathe. When you stop living by obligation and start living by choice.
I began showing up for the people around me, and making connections for the little moments, the small everyday moments: coffee, laughter, unplanned connection.
Therapy Taught Me This: “I’m Fine” Is Not a Life Plan
It wasn’t until therapy that I realized: I wasn’t okay. Not really.
I had spent years masking. Smiling. Overachieving. Keeping peace by saying, “I’m fine.”
But fine is a cover.
Fine is a trap.
Masking is exhausting.
I stopped hiding behind it. I got real. I gave myself the space to break and rebuild.
Face to face.
Heart to heart.
That’s what matters.
I still slip up. I still get caught in busy. But now, I know when I’m back on that wheel. And I choose differently.
Especially for the Women Who Do It All
If you’re a woman in the sandwich generation (kids, aging parents, job, bills—the whole load)... you already know:
You bury your needs. You silence your stillness. You forget yourself.
Remember, you cannot pour from an empty cup, regardless of how strong you believe you are.
I think of my girlfriend, heart big as gold, she hasn’t taken a vacation in over 10 years. She says yes to everyone and everything. Her task list is endless, and only she can do it.
But what about her pause? Her breath? Her healing?
We’ve been sold the lie:
Busy = productive
Yes = good
Nonstop = success
But what if the better definition of success is:
Present.
Connected.
Happy.
Because true success isn’t in your schedule. It’s in your soul.
🌿 Reclaiming Yourself: Seven Luxe Solutions
Awareness is the beginning, but transformation begins when you choose to live differently. Here’s where you start, simple, sacred shifts that bring you back home to yourself.
Awareness is step one. But transformation? That starts with new choices.Here are seven Luxe ways to reset and return to you:
Schedule Stillness Like It’s Sacred Block out 15–30 minutes. No phone. No email. Just silence. Just you.
Protect Your Yes Try the Pocket Test: If I say yes, will it drain me or fill me? Let that answer lead.
Check In Like You Mean It Grab coffee. Go for a walk. Sit down and ask someone how they really are. Be all there.
Flip Obligations Into Opportunities You can’t dodge responsibility. But you can show up differently. When you’re with family, be present. When you travel, rest. When you work, pause.
Root Yourself Beyond the Grind You are more than your job, your title, or your feed. Ask: Who am I when I’m not busy? Let her lead.
Make Health and Wellness Non-Negotiable Stillness heals. It reduces anxiety, improves sleep, and restores clarity.Take your wellness as seriously as your work.
Create a Landing Ritual After a long week, a trip, or a marathon of tasks—land. Breathe. Journal. Walk. Tell your nervous system: We’re safe now. We’re home.
🌅 Because tomorrow isn’t promised. But this moment? This breath, this beauty, this awareness, it’s yours.
Take it.
Breathe.
Sit still.
Connect.
From Nurse Gina
If this spoke to you, share it with a sister who needs the reminder:peace is not passive, it’s a power move.
Stay Luxe, stay bold, stay beautiful.
Gina Washam, RN, CEO & Founder, Luxe Hydration & Wellness by Gina
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